Why High-Performing Women Are Exhausted
I could just post the polished version.
The finished makeup.
The black tie dress.
The glamorous photos.
And don’t get me wrong…I love getting dressed up. And I love to look good.
But if I only ever showed the polished version of myself online, how could the women I work with ever really trust me?
Because coaching only works when people feel safe enough to tell the truth.
The overthinking.
The anxiety.
The self-doubt.
The pressure.
The parts they’re trying hardest to hide.
And if I’m constantly performing perfection online, what message does that send?
That they need to show up perfectly too? And pretend everything is ok? They’ve no problems? No issues with performance?
No thanks.
High-performing women are used to holding it together
This is something I see constantly with the women I work with.
On paper, everything still looks fine:
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successful career
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capable
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functioning
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delivering
But underneath?
They’re exhausted.
Not because they’re incapable.
Because they’re carrying the pressure of constantly needing to:
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perform
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cope
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stay composed
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keep proving themselves
And during perimenopause or midlife, that pressure starts costing more than it used to.
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The problem with “coping well”
Women who are high-performing are often the least likely to ask for support.
Because resilience becomes identity.
You become:
- the dependable one
- the calm one
- the one who gets things done
So when things start to feel harder:
- brain fog
- anxiety
- emotional overwhelm
- confidence dips
…the instinct isn’t to pause.
It’s to push harder….because lets be honest, we don’t ever want to admit we’re not Superwoman!
Read my tips for performing at your best during midlife
Why honesty matters more than polish
Real trust is built when people feel they can stop pretending.
That’s true in coaching.
And honestly, it’s true in life too.
I’m not interested in creating a polished version of womanhood that nobody can actually relate to.
I’m interested in honest conversations about:
- performance
- confidence
- identity
- pressure
- midlife
- what happens when the strategies that used to work stop working in the same way
Because that’s where meaningful change starts.
You don’t have to hold it all together alone
One of the biggest shifts for many women is realising:
Struggling silently is not a requirement for being capable.
And often, the strongest thing you can do is stop pretending you’re fine when you’re not.
